Kindergarten readiness (see checklist) is one of many pre-K parents’ worries. Yes, it is good to have all the listed skills, but in my humble opinion the art of making friends is by far the most important skill your child should know before starting kindergarten; even before learning to tell them about this event! ment. As a mother of three, I wish I had spent more time teaching them this skill before my kids started elementary school. We have all been told that reading, doing math and focusing more on science is important but for most children in school their main concern is not being able to read, but not having friends to play with. Children, in general, worry more about who they are going to be playing with during recess or who is getting invited to a birthday party.
15 Essential Skills That Friends Help Friends Acquire
From the book “Nobody likes me Everybody Hates Me” by Michele Borba, Ed.D.
When looking for a possible cooperative school or preschool for your child, make sure that the teacher can teach your child proper social/emotional development. Nobel Laureate James Heckman, an economist at the University of Chicago states that Social/ Emotional Development skills are-“The skills that allow people to interact appropriately and effectively with others may be the most important takeaways from preschool”. The teachers should help your child develop self-confidence, teamwork, inquisitiveness and communication.
Friendships begin at home and a good teacher can continue with the social/ emotional process at school. When your children are developing and learning on how to make friends, this is what they are learning in the process: problem solving, cooperation, self-control, and compassion.
This is how you can help your child develop friendships:
Read books about friendship and how to make friends. Here is a list of possible books to read (there are many more books and this is just a sample list to get you started.)Books for kids:
Support your child with developing essential social and emotional skills by making connections with school friends at home. Ask her/him whom she/he would like to invite for a playdate. It is often easier for children to make friends in their own space, one on one, than in school.
Teach your child how to smile, look at people’s eyes, remember kid’s names or simply say hello. Observe your child’s social skills and learn what might need polishing. Then focus on teaching one skill at a time. Role playing helps a lot to teach a new behavior or skill. Make sure your child learns one behavior first before teaching another one. Keep evaluating.
You can do this by having your child express the worries and problems they are having with friends. Help them go through what happened and how they felt about it. They may be able to figure out an alternative solution by processing thru with you and act differently the next time.
Communicate with your child’s teacher and learn what the teacher is doing to develop essential friendship skills. Have the teacher observe your child and work with the teacher to help your child develop appropriate social skills.
Or more like a referee with your kid and her friends (help them develop the skills to resolve conflicts instead of solving the problem for them).
Children with healthy social skills will have a good foundation which enables them to become enthusiastic lifelong learners — enthusiastic because she has deep connections with friends who make her feel secure and confident, and allow her to believe that learning is fun as well as meaningful.
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